I have ranted before about raising children, but I figured I’d post this more concise crystalization.
First, Anna and I are both fundamentalist Bible-believing Christians, and that (hopefully) guides our aims and methods. So, you’re going to have to translate these to match your own principles.
Our core principle is “Children are people”
And then any principle which applies to people in general applies to them, especially:
“People can be trained in any ability which they can control.”
“People are responsible for any action or possession that they can control.”
On top of this is our belief that “Parents have ownership over their children”
which leads to two further principles:
“Parents are responsible for their children’s actions.”
“Children should obey their parents”
From these six principles, follows our principle of parenting and child-rearing:
“Parents can and should train their children both to obey, and to accept responsibility for any of the child’s actions or possessions that the child can control.”